Sorry this is so long, but I really need some help… First off, I’m a Sophomore and the guy I like is a Sophomore. Just thought I’d throw that out there, Now, it’s difficult for me to understand guys because I am a girl. I get it. But trying to understand THIS guy is like… I don’t even know! Like trying to WALK ON WATER or something! August 2009 I fell for this guy who was close friends with my Ex at band camp, and I asked him out. He and I are best friends, too. So, I don’t know if it was a mistake or not to ask him out, but I don’t care. He beat around the bush a little bit, the whole “You’re a great person, and any guy would be lucky to have you” speech, but ultimately said no due to a poor relationship he had with a girl that had been one of his friends Ex’s. He said he now has a “no dating friends Ex’s rule” because his friend hates him now and he won’t date me because he’s a “coward and afraid of loss”. Totally understandable and respectable, but it makes me like him even more, lol.
Okay. Between that time and Homecoming on October 3rd he avoided me, and I learned through the grape-vine that he was taking some Freshman ***** to the dance. Okay, cool whatever. Then at Homecoming, in front of me, asks her to be his gf. Smooth move, jerk.
But WHILE he’s dating her, after I had a conversation with him online, he finds me the next day, unexpectedly hugs me… hm… probably for about 30 seconds, maybe and whispers in my ear “See, I’m not mad at you.” then hurries away.
Then there have been times where I’ve caught him staring at me from afar, and when I do, he quickly turns away. There was also a time where one of my guy friends had his arm around me and we were laughing coming down the hallway where the guy I like usually waits for his gf and as soon as he sees me he turns to his best friend and says “Let’s go.” and they start walking down the hallway and then his gf’s all like “Hey! Wait for me!” running to catch up with him (that was funny) then all the way down the staircase he’s doing like… quadruple-takes over his shoulder looking at me. Annoying.
Then, He broke up with his Freshman gf (YaY! lol) at the end of October or early November (can’t remember) and mid-November at our School’s State Finals for football band gets a break during 3rd quarter and her found me amongst our 172 band members just to say he liked drinking hot chocolate and that he was going to go get some more. I had ran out, so I asked him to get me some while he was over there and he said “No…. if you want some you’ll have to get it WITH me.” I was in an utter state of shock and just said “okay” and totally ditched my friend to go get hot chocoate (she forgave me later after I told her what happened, lol) then he takes me into a circle of his friends (his ex amongst them) and I just stand there quietly with a smile because its cold and I have hot chocolate because he got it for me. while he’s cracking jokes and stuff he keeps giving me this weird look… like a questioning look I guess… like a “Is this okay” or a “Do you approve” kind of look. Why couldn’t he have just been normal and told me to go and get my own hot chocolate if I wanted it so bad? *sigh*
I invited him to my birthday in December. I didn’t expect him to show up, but he did. My family said he wouldn’t take his eyes off of me the entire night and that he seemed to be staying exceptionally close to me. I had about 40 people there and I WAS the birthday girl, so I don’t count any of that stuff against him. The one thing I found somewhat strange though was his response to a joke I made about him. See, as he was leaving I told him I was glad he came to my party even if he did only come for the cake. (and I didn’t see this, but multiple people have told me this happened) He had walked out the door, turned around, come back in, and said… in what was described as coy and suggestive, “Maybe.” then he turned around and left again.
What am I supposed to make of this guy? I have countless other things to add to this strange list, but I’m trying to give y’all information in a nutshell. TRY is the keyword there, lol. Anyway, some help here would be appreciated. I need some insight. I REALLY like him… so much that I’m losing sleep over him and I cry over him every night. Pathetic, I know XD But I’m desparate for guidance. Anyone got any clues as to what this guy’s thinking? And what should I do about it?
FUNNY FATHER OF THE BRIDE SPEECHES
